Mirror Mirror on the wall…

Mirrors have been used in art for hundreds of years. They reveal, project, conceal and reflect.

When I started The Gracie Kendal Project, I used the computer screen as a mirror.

Gracie was/is my reflection while I also see myself in my shiny screen.

In my eating disorder support group, there is an exercise the leader has us do. We have to hold a mirror up to ourselves and say “I accept me.” For most, this is very hard. I accept some aspects of myself, the interior, but not the exterior. It is hard to look at my face, my body and accept or even like it.

Today my counselor told me to do another exercise. I have to look in a mirror and just look. I need to really look and find something I like. I have been thinking about this since our meeting, imagining myself looking in a mirror. I can see my face in my mind. I know what I look like. I can’t imagine finding anything I like about my appearance. I have crossed eyes, a big nose and a thick double chin but I did it anyway.

Where does our concept of beauty come from? From centuries of cultures who set standards of beauty? from magazines, advertisements who set standards? From movies and TV shows telling us that if you aren’t beautiful you won’t get far in life? From years of judgment and criticism if you are not the standard, but on the margins? Why is there such an emphasis on beauty? Why is it so important to our culture?

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3 thoughts on “Mirror Mirror on the wall…

  1. Aren’t standards of “beauty” based on some nebulous primal concept of attracting the opposite sex and making babies? Big boobs and wide hips (emphasized by a wee little waist) represent good child-bearing material? Aside from that, yeah I agree that popular culture has a lot of influence, as in creating a market for products like cosmetics, clothing and all the magical things that promise to make us beautiful but mostly make someone else rich. 🙂
    I wonder about the height thing in SL, why are we all amazons and giants? I keep noticing myself getting more and more freakishly tall and have to dial it back a bit… !

  2. Some things I see right away that I like about you, Gracie:

    (Outer)
    Shiney hair that’s nicely cut
    Smooth skin
    Cleanliness and order around you
    You wear clothes that actually flatter you
    (Inner)
    Honesty
    A willingness to share so it can help others
    You have a compelling way with explaining things that makes me come back for more and makes me want to be your friend. I may not always agree 100% but that doesn’t really matter.

    • Awwwww thank you so much Ima!!!! I am so glad to know you!!!
      Hehe not everyone agrees.. and that is totally ok.. I’d love to know what you don’t agree on though, and hear your points of view. I am always open to broadening my horizons and learning new things 🙂

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