Fat and Fucking by Rebecca Jorden

This is a really great blog post someone pointed out…

I totally agree with everything!!!

Fat and fucking by Rebecca Jorden

An excerpt….

–Love your body.
If you love someone, you put up with their shortcomings and try to do things to make them happy. You care about their health and their safety, and their quality of life. Loving your body doesn’t mean that you have to think your body is perfect. It doesn’t even mean that you have to make peace with your body. But if you want to do sexy stuff, you and your body need to be on the same team. On some level you have to have goodwill towards your body; if you hate your flesh, you’ll probably find ways to punish or ignore it. You will never allow good things to happen to it.

There are some fat people out there for whom positive body image comes naturally, and others who have fought hard for years to shed the shackles of body negativity. Most of us still struggle with various degrees of body shame, denial of our physical selves, and/or hang-ups and insecurities about our appearance. All those emotional struggles are also common to people who don’t identify as fat, and they can be incredibly daunting battles for anyone.

The most useful thing I have learned about loving oneself and one’s body is to start small. Don’t try to brainwash yourself into suddenly adoring aspects of your appearance that you’ve disliked since the third grade. Instead, pick a simple, regularly repeated thing you can do for your body as a gesture of kindness or support. For example, drink an extra glass of water every morning. Take five minutes on your lunch break to breathe deeply and do some easy, low impact stretches. Or spend extra cash on a pleasurable meal that will nutritionally benefit your health. Don’t make it about losing weight, “fixing” your appearance, or changing your body. Just acknowledge your physical self, and give that self a little emotional fist bump of friendship. The more often you do this, the more normal it will feel and the easier it will be to grow from these small gestures into a larger, more comfortable sense of goodwill towards your body.

Grant your body permission to exist as it is.

I need your help!

Just got the postcards for my upcoming show!!! Woooot!!!!

I still need your help. I have 4 days left on my indiegogo site to help raise money for the installation/performance involving second life avatars. It is going to be such a great show and will  help bring the importance of virtual art even more into the real art world.

When I joined the virtual world of Second Life over 5 years ago, I was a painter showing digital copies of my work in virtual galleries. I immediately saw the potential of this online digital environment for artists, writers and musicians. I have met so many amazing and talented people from all over the world. I have often compared the art community in Second Life to Paris of the 1920s which attracted a similar group of artists, writers, poets and musicians who sought inspiration and an exchange of ideas.

Please check out the indiegogo  site and become a patron. Every little bit helps!! Check out the great perks you will receive for donating. http://www.indiegogo.com/And-one-man-in-his-time-plays-many-parts

 

Thank you all so much for your support and friendship!! You guys rock!!!

Guess who’s coming to dinner???

So not sure if I told you, but I have a mixed-reality installation/performance opening on May 5th in Los Angeles. I am planning a dinner party between guests in the physical art gallery and Second Life simultaneously. The gallery will be transformed into a 1920’s Parisian dining room with 70-100 avatar portraits on the walls in both worlds. We will be dressed to the nines in 1920’s fashion too. It is going to be so fun!!

I started an indiegogo site to help raise money for the show. You can check it out here, as well as get more info on what I am planning…  “And one man in his time plays many parts”

There are only 3 weeks left to reach my goal for the show!! I am so excited about this performance/installation. It is one of the most important things I have done and I believe it will help bring further legitimacy and even more significance to Second Life. Plus it will help bring “Gracie and the Real Girl” to the physical art world even more.

Please become a patron and support the show!!!

Thank you all so much for your continued support and friendship.

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

To my guy friend,

Why do you keep asking me if I’m dating anyone? Of course I’m not. Who wants me? No one. I hear guys talking all the  time about physically beautiful women they meet and date. They have ‘trophy’ wives and girlfriends. I guess I should be happy I am not put on a pedestal like that. But sometimes I want to be. I want to be adored, wanted, loved by a guy. No one wants me. Have you seen me lately? I weight 240 pounds. I am huge. I am fat. I am tired of being unwanted. I have a great personality. I’m witty, intelligent, fun. I am beautiful on the inside, but not acceptably beautiful physically. Why won’t someone love me as I deserve to be  loved?

I blame a large part of my feelings about  myself and the idea of beauty on the media, society, ego, TV and  advertising. Physical beauty is pushed on people so much, there is absolutely no other alternative. Why is physical beauty so important? Even if I thought I was beautiful physically, what does that matter if no one else thinks so? Is there something innate in people to want to strive for youth and beauty in themselves and others? Of course people want to feel good  about themselves. But most people go far beyond that because they seek acceptance. Why? What if they don’t achieve it? Do they feel unfulfilled? Unhappy? unsuccessful? Why is physical beauty so important? Why is it so desirable? Why is fat so disgusting? Or  is it just me? am I projecting my own insecurities onto others Or am I looking at a reflection of myself?

Why?

Your friend Kris

Fat girl at Yoga… but not me… Yet!!!

A friend posted this great blog piece on her plurk  line… it is so awesome I had to share here…

An open letter to the fat girl I saw at hot yoga in New York City

Another great site, that I have to share…

The Nicest place on the Internet

Hope you have a great weekend!!!!